Many adopting families and most birth parents are unclear about what make an adoption closed or open.
In a closed adoption, the birth mother, birth father and you (the adopting family) are anonymous. While you may or may not meet and may share first names at the hospital
or at placement, no identifying information such as last names, addresses, social security numbers, is exchanged. In an open adoption, the birth mother, birth father and you exchange identifying
information and after the placement you may or may not have ongoing contact with each other. The key factor is that identifying information is shared while in a closed adoption it is not shared.
Whether an adoption is closed or open is determined by what you want, what the birth mother and birth father want, what your state
adoption law allows, and what agency you select. Some birth mother will
only work with families wanting an open adoption and others only with those wanting a closed adoption. Some child adoption agencies also dictate whether an adoption they conduct will be open or closed.
And then some states do the same by way of their child adoption law.
We have done hundreds of both closed and open adoptions over the years and have found neither one to be "safer" or more ''risky" than the other. Both have their advantages
and disadvantages. Rest assured, however, that with either an open adoption or a closed adoption, as long as you are working with a licensed
child adoption agency or an adoption attorney, you should have no problem just because the adoption is open or closed.
If you have additional questions or need help, please contact us. You may find the Child Welfare Information Gateway article Openness in Adoption: A Fact Sheet for